There’s this girl…

  She loves being with people but sometimes, she just wants to be left alone. She will just listen to some songs and observe silence. She wants something good to happen without even striving hard for it, that’s why nothing good happens to her. She really loves when the blue skies turn to gray and the rain starts to fall, she will quickly stop what she is doing at the moment, and will run outside and feel the presence of the hard rain. She is willing to be left behind and fall down for those people she care for. She is still confused on what she will have to attain in life, but knows where to start. She just doesn’t have the guts to prove to the whole world, that she can, for she thinks that the world is just a humongous monster, ready to eat her any moment. 

  You think she’s just like any typical girl? Think twice. She’s a boyish girl. She cares for others too much rather herself. She loves eating ice cream and anything else cold when it’s raining. She wants to be a supermodel yet doesn’t have the body, beauty and confidence to show. She became ashamed of herself because she thinks she’s just nothing.

  She has a broken family, mother still existing, while the father is gone. Yet she heard stories that her father left the family, she still wants to feel the love and find her father because ones life is incomplete without the other. She wants to see her father for her mother told her that she looks like her father, with the little eyes as resemblance. When the time comes that they are going to meet each other, the girl will simply welcome her father in her arms and hug him tightly and look him right straight in the eyes because she’s too glad about the meet up. 

  She has great people around, surrounding her but she still craves for more love. She wants to experience that romantic story where the boy gets to hug her when she’s down, tell her stories, laugh with her, lie under the night sky and point out the wonderful stars with her, stay under the rain and dance the night away. But what she’s dreaming of is kind like impossible for it is just a childish act. 

  This girl loves the glowing and sparkling stars in the night sky, especially the roundness of the moon. She gets disappointed every time she sees the night sky empty of stars because the stars are just one of the things that make her happy. She wants to travel the other side of the world and not sleep so she’ll not miss any event. She has an outrageous imagination. She knows things but not everything.

  She wants the society and the world to accept her, but she’s not making the efforts to do so. How can one be cruel to thyself. 

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Communication assignment #3

Do you agree that magazines promote the negative self of women??

 

  What a chic mag contains: fashion, trends, make up, well-toned models, great articles, inspiring stories, embarrassing confessions and a lot more.. What else could one wish for? It’s like a handy for women nowadays for they can indulge in such things: magazines that give info about every lad has to know. From those latest trends down to the most hottest. It makes women in the ‘loop’ even though not all magazines contain the same info’s. 

  I strongly disagree about that thing on negativity. Women sometimes just rely on what they see and read in the mag so it’s a big help to fit in or be updated. Magazines just show on what more a woman can be rather than be the plain ol’ simple ‘her’. The world is a huge runway, it just serves as a guide line for women. It even serves women on how to deal with their ‘better self’. In other words, magazines just help out promote ones inner diva. 

  If the latest trends are out, women tend to have or buy that because they know that it can make themselves better and wholesome. Nobody wants to be left behind, right? That’s one purpose of settling out things for women. About those, tall, skinny and toned models on the magazine our professor mentioned, they also pose for a cause. They make women step to a higher level and love themselves even more, They just don’t pose to make other people envy them you know, It’s a part of their job to be looked up to as role models. With the aid of their help, women are introduced to the world of beauty and glam. 

Communication assignment #2

Column : 

Pinay Child Brides

By Rina Jimenez-David

Philippine Daily Inquirer

We call them “child brides,” girls who get married before they reach the age of 18, and whose futures are compromised by this premature introduction into the adult world of marriage, motherhood, sex, and household responsibilities.

While the majority of child marriages in the world take place in sub-Saharan Africa and South Asia, the phenomenon is not unknown in this country. Statistics compiled by the National Statistical Coordination Board show that for the year 2011, a total of 58,320 girls (12.2 percent) below 20 years of age got married. In contrast, only 12,882 (2.7 percent) teenage boys became grooms, which bears out the observation that many child brides are married off to much older men. (If you want to play around with statistics, note that only 192 women age 70-74 got married in 2011, compared to 805 men of the same age range.)

Many of these marriages, where one or both partners were below 18 years, took place in poor, rural areas, where norms tolerating, if not encouraging, the practice are common. These include Muslim communities where men under Sharia law are allowed up to four wives, and indigenous cultural communities where multiple families are common and civil registration of marriages and births seldom takes place.

Does this explain the observation that, despite the overall decline in marriages around the country, marriages in the Autonomous Region in Muslim Mindanao increased by 79.7 percent in 2011 compared with the previous year?

Whatever, child marriage has been called one of the most common forms of violations of human rights in the world, “posing great risks to the girls involved,” according to the “Women Under Siege” project. These risks go beyond the loss of childhood or adolescent freedom, and can extend to threats to health, violation of the right to education, and even compromise the brides’ future and that of their children.

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Girls who become mothers “frequently before their bodies are completely ready,” wrote journalist Max Fisher in an article in The Washington Post, face serious threats to their health and survival. “In developing countries, where almost all child marriages take place,” writes Fisher, “complications from pregnancy and childbirth are the No. 1 cause of death for girls age 15 to 19. That means that pregnancy and childbirth kill more girls in the developing world than war, AIDS, tuberculosis or any other cause.”

The reason early motherhood is so deadly for girls is simply that “their bodies are not ready.” Indeed, in developing countries, a girl or woman is twice as likely to die in childbirth if she’s age 15 to 19 than she is if she’s in her 20s. Girls are five times as likely to die.

In addition, marriages between a girl and a much older man are “typically far from equal.” “Keep in mind that husbands to child brides are typically adults and may have often paid her parents for the privilege; many activists consider child marriages to be a form of human trafficking… the buying and selling of human beings,” writes Fisher.

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In this situation of inequality, as Fisher observes, “the conditions of child marriage make marital rape more likely.” Indeed, Unicef calls child marriage “the most prevalent form of sexual abuse and exploitation of girls.”

Fisher adds: “Some activists argue that, in cases where the bride is clearly a young child, sex in such marriages should not be considered consensual. Separately, the fact that the husband may have paid for his bride can set up a dynamic that’s more transactional than romantic. Comprehensive statistics on marital rape are not available and, in any case, what constitutes marital rape can be tough to define in places where a girl grows up learning that she’s expected to do her ‘marital duty.’ Still, Human Rights Watch cites a number of anecdotal cases that clearly qualify as rapes, often justified as function of the girls’ marriage.”

Powerless and completely under their older husbands’ thumbs, young wives have little say on their future. A natural and common consequence is that after marriage, a girl is forced to leave school, “often left totally reliant on their husbands.” Observes Fisher: “This leaves (the girls) with little future except as a housewife and mother, a life they never have the opportunity to choose willingly as an adult. Having dropped out of school so young also makes it that much tougher for them, because they have little means to provide for themselves, to leave their marriage if the husband is abusive.”

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One in seven girls in the developing world is married before turning 15, Fisher notes, and, he says, “that population is expected to grow rapidly, far outpacing the rest of the world.”

“Girls are the world’s forgotten population,” Fisher quotes Lauren Wolfe, of the Women Under Siege project. Indeed, voiceless and powerless even before they got married or had children, girls are often overlooked, if not ignored. In the eyes of many adults, maybe even including their parents, marriage could even be their “salvation,” even if it means putting them under the domination of a man who paid for her company, if not her body. And even if her consent was neither sought nor given.

It is in the face of this rising number of child brides and underage marriages, and the horrible consequences the phenomenon bears on the girls’ health and their future as well as that of their children, that we might do well (or at least, the Supreme Court justices could) to consider the provisions of the Reproductive Health Law, especially those on the provision of age-appropriate sexuality education, and access to RH services to all, regardless of age or civil status.

It’s time we gave our girls voice and power.

Reaction:

 It’s interesting yet shocking that this topic was shown out because I didn’t know that this was already happening in the Philippines. But thanks to this, I am informed and educated. I agree for this article is true. Being a ‘child bride’ is common but not in our country.

It’s odd that ‘child brides’ actually do exist. I blame the advancement of technology, because a lot can happen in just a snap of a finger, and the carelessness of some people for this. Why is it odd? because in my opinion, people have their own minds for thinking and one can differ rights from wrongs already. It’s just that, some teens are taking things way too far and not even even looking into the present age. That’s the mainstream of the event.

  It’s not a common practice in our country, but as for now, it’s a widespread. You can now see a lot of teenage girls carrying their infants with their called-to-be husbands. I wonder how their parents can live through with this. It’s not a good start for a girl to be married at the age of 15 or so because in this stage, girls are refined and developed. A lot more problems will be handled as a wife and mother, instead of just being a free teen. Some will even be slaved by their own husbands. It’s not a good practice because nothing good can be benefited.

  Teenagers should be more cautious about this, as well as other people.